FATHERHOOD
NAVIGATING PARENTHOOD
The recent workshops on Black Fatherhood made me think about how a father’s presence is beyond just financial support, and can transform a child’s life. That moment pushed me to look deeper into what modern fatherhood truly means.
Let’s address the elephant in the room. Black fathers are often unfairly characterized as absent or uninvolved. That stereotype is both harmful and outdated. Research from the CDC shows that among fathers living with their children, Black fathers are more likely than white or Latino fathers to feed, bathe, dress, read to, and play with their kids on a daily basis.
Of course, everyone’s story is different. Not all fathers have been present. Not all have had the tools, support, or role models they needed. But many are showing up with intention, love, and consistency. And that deserves recognition.
Redefining Fatherhood
For decades, society painted fathers into a narrow box: work hard, pay bills, stay emotionally distant. But that story is changing. Today, many fathers are in delivery rooms learning how to swaddle, attending prenatal appointments, and rocking babies to sleep in the middle of the night. They are emotionally available, supportive partners and deeply engaged parents.
Partnership Over Roles
Modern fatherhood is not about “helping out.” It is about fully sharing the responsibility of raising a family. That means rejecting outdated gender roles and embracing real partnership. From handling meals and school drop-offs to leading hard conversations and celebrating small wins, engaged co-parenting strengthens both families and communities.
Healthy co-parenting begins with mutual respect, open communication, and a commitment to the child’s well-being. It is not about keeping score. It is about building trust, staying involved, and creating a strong foundation together.
Raising Confident and Connected Children
There is no one-size-fits-all parenting style, but we know that presence matters. When fathers participate in everyday moments like homework, playtime, and bedtime stories, they discover what motivates their children and how to support them. This kind of involvement builds confidence, cultural pride, and emotional strength.
The Power of Community
No father can do it all alone. Whether it is joining a fatherhood group, listening to parenting podcasts, or leaning on a trusted friend, support matters. These spaces offer a chance to learn, grow, and celebrate the wins—together.
Showing Up Matters
Fatherhood is not about perfection. It is about presence. It is about being consistent, emotionally available, and invested. Day after day, hug after hug, the smallest moments often shape our children in the biggest ways.